Friend Zone: I Confessed and She Turned Me Down!

QUESTION

The Thing is... I have been friends with this girl for like 8 years now, in short, more like bestows (that's what she calls me). Somewhere along the line, I developed feelings for her. Since i knew she didn't feel that way I tried to squash it. People kept telling me to let her know but I refused because i didn't want to spoil our friendship. Two weeks ago, I told her I had a crush on her... she said thank God it's only a crush! Since then, There has been an awkward silence between us... What do i do?

Oh dear, you have been friend zoned. The Truth is, in future, it is possible she could see you as more than a friend but as of right now, you have been zoned. What you need to do is focus on another girl. That is the only way she will believe you are over the "crush" and feel comfortable to resume as bestows (or not). She might even become jealous because of the other girl and try to win you back but if she felt the same as you do I am sure she will have embraced your confession in her own way. Your hopes might want you to believe she is fronting and if really she is... give her space. Women do not like it when someone who has been so available to them isn't anymore.
 It is a good thing you got it off your chest though. At least you know where things really are and where your hopes have clouded the reality.

Food For Thought: If you ever want to confess to a woman, "a crush" is not the best way to express yourself. Tell her you like her, not that you have a crush. Then you can ask her out for dinner but do not lose the friendliness between you if it works. Just add romance to the equation.